Life-Lesson-from a glass of water

A chemistry professor decided to teach his students a different lesson one day. Holding a glass of water in his hand, he asked the students, “How much do you think this glass of water weighs?” “500 grams!” came a voice from the back. “600,” said another student. “I don’t really know!” said the professor, holding the glass up to make sure everyone could see it. “And unless we weigh it, we won’t know.” With the glass still in his outstretched hand, the professor continued, “What will happen if I hold it like this for a few minutes?”
“Nothing!” came the reply. “Right, and if I hold it for an hour like this, what might happen?” “Your hand will begin to hurt,” said a student. “Indeed. And what would happen if I held the glass in my hand like this for 24 hours?”
“You would be in tremendous pain,” said one student. “Your hand will probably go numb,” said another. “Your arm will be paralysed and we’ll need to rush you to the hospital!” said a student on the last bench.
“True,” said the professor. “But notice that through all this, the weight of the glass did not change. What then causes the pain?”
The class went quiet. The students seemed puzzled.“What should I do to avoid the pain?” asked the professor. “Put the glass down!” said a student.

“Well said!” exclaimed the professor. “And that’s a lesson I want you to remember. The problems and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. But think about it a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralysed – incapable of doing anything. It’s important to remember to let go of your problems. Remember to put the glass down!”

We may not have been in that classroom that day, but it’s a lesson we would all do well to remember. Put the glass down! Always. It’s not just problems and worries. Sometimes, we feel hurt and betrayed by a friend. And we carry that grudge through our lives. It grows and causes us anguish and pain. Learning to forgive – and forget – is not just good for the other people, it’s great for you. Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in jail and when he was finally freed, you can understand how angry and vengeful he must have felt. But guess what? When he became President, he invited his jailers to be present at the inauguration – in the VIP seats! If he could forgive after 27 years of suffering, surely we can too.

It is the same with our fears too. A failure or an incident in early childhood becomes a deeply entrenched fear over time. Fear of public speaking, fear of Maths, fear of rejection. You name it, and chances are, we have it. Someone gave us that glass to hold when we were little kids – ‘you are clumsy, you are no good, you can’t do it’ - and we have faithfully held on to it all our lives. ‘I can’t’ - becomes a thought that stays in our mind and grows – leading us to complete paralysis. Time to put the glass down!

The story goes that there was a hardworking man who lived a contented life with his wife and children. Every evening when he returned from work, he’d follow a ritual. Outside the door to his house were three nails. On the first one, he’d put his hat. On the second he’d hang his coat. And on the third nail, he’d unwrap an imaginary turban from his head and ‘put’ it there. A friend happened to see this and enquired what he was putting on the third nail every day.
“Those are my problems, my worries and my anger,” said the man. “I have lots of that at work, but when I come home, I remember to take it off – and leave them outside. I don’t take them home with me.” Maybe you should learn to do that too. Starting today. Put the glass down. And see the difference!

God has plans and justice for everyone....

Once there was a sweeper in a well known temple and he was very sincere and devoted.

Every time he saw thousands of devotees coming to take darshan of the Lord,  he thought that the Lord is standing all the time and giving darshan and He must be feeling very tired.
 
So one day very innocently he asked the Lord whether he can take the place of the Lord for a day so that the Lord can have some relief and rest.

The Deity of Temple replied, "I do not mind taking a break.

I will transform you like Myself, but you must do one thing.  you must just stand here like Me, smile at everyone and just give benedictions.  Do not interfere with anything and do not say anything.  Remember you are the deity and you just have faith that I have a master plan for everything.

" The sweeper agreed to this.
The next day the sweeper took the position of the deity and a rich man came and prayed to the Lord.

He offered a nice donation and prayed that his business should be prosperous.  While going, the rich man inadvertently left his wallet full of money right there.   Now the sweeper in the form of deity could not call him and  so he decided to control himself and keep quiet.

Just then a poor man came and he put one coin in the Hundi and  said that it was all he could afford and he prayed to the Lord  that he should continue to be engaged in the Lord's service.  He also said that his family was in dire need of some basic needs but he left it to the good hands of the Lord to give some solution.   When he opened his eyes, he saw the wallet left by the rich man.  The poor man thanked the Lord for His kindness and took the wallet very innocently.  The sweeper in the form of the Deity could not say anything and he had to just keep smiling.

At that point a sailor walked in. He prayed for his safe journey as he was going on a long trip.  Just then the rich man came with the police and said that somebody has stolen his wallet  and seeing the sailor there, he asked the police to arrest him thinking that he might have taken it.  Now the sweeper in the form of Deity wanted to say that the sailor is not the thief but he could not say so and he became greatly frustrated. The sailor looked at the Lord and asked why he, an innocent person, is being punished.  The rich man looked at the Lord and thanked Him for finding the thief. The sweeper in the deity form could no more tolerate and he thought that even if the real Lord had been here, he would have definitely interfered and hence he started speaking and said that the sailor is not the thief but it was the poor man who took away the wallet. The rich man was very thankful as also the sailor. 

In the night, the real Lord came and He asked the sweeper how the day was.  The sweeper said, "I thought it would be easy, but now I know that Your days are not easy, but I did one good thing." Then he explained the whole episode to the Lord. The Lord became very upset on hearing this whereas the sweeper thought the Lord would appreciate him for the good deed done.

The Lord asked, "Why did you not just stick to the plan?
You had no faith in Me. Do you think that I do not understand the hearts of all those who come here?
All the donation which the rich man gave was all stolen money and it is only a fraction of what he really has and he wants Me to reciprocate unlimitedly.  The single coin offered by the poor man was the last coin he was having and he gave it to Me out of faith.  The sailor might not have done anything wrong, but if the sailor were to go in the ship that night he was about to die because of bad weather and instead if he is arrested he would be in the jail and he would have been saved form a greater calamity.
The wallet should go to the poor man because he will use it in My service.  I was going to reduce the rich man's karma also by doing this and save the sailor also.  But you cancelled everything because you thought you know My plan and you made your own plans."

Moral: God has plans and justice for everyone....
We just have to have patience!!!!!

Fabulous Compilation

Napoleon said.. 

"The world suffers a lot. Not because of the violence of bad people, but because of the silence of good people !"

Michael Paul said.. 

I wrote on the door of heart, "Please do not enter"
Love came smiling and said: "Sorry I am an illiterate."

Einstein said.. 

"I am thankful to all those who said NO to me
It’s Because of them I did it myself.

Abraham Lincoln said.. 

"If friendship is your weakest point then you are the strongest person in the world."

Shakespeare said.. 

"Laughing Faces Do Not Mean That There Is Absence Of Sorrow !
But It Means That They Have The Ability To Deal With It."

Shakespeare said..
"In The Times Of Crisis I Was Not Hurt By The Harsh Words Of My Enemies,
But By The Silence Of My Friends."

Shakespeare said..

"Never Play With The Feelings Of Others Because You May Win The Game.
But You Will Surely Lose The Person For Life Time."

Shakespeare said.. 

"Coin Always Makes Sound, But The Currency Notes Are Always Silent.
So When Your Value Increases Keep Yourself Calm Silent."

William Arthur said.. 

"Opportunities Are Like Sunrises, If You Wait Too Long You Can Miss Them."

Hitler said.. 

"When You Are In The Light, Everything Follows You,
But When You Enter Into The Dark, Even Your Own Shadow Doesn’t Follow You."

John Keats said..

"It Is Very Easy To Defeat Someone, But It Is Very Hard To Win Someone."

HOW TO SELL?‏ - Salesman Of the Millennium

Salesman Of the Millennium

A keen immigrant Indian Marwadi lad applied for a salesman's job at London 's premier downtown department store. In fact, it was the biggest store in the world - you could get anything there.

The boss asked him, "Have you ever been a salesman before?" "Yes sir, I was a salesman in India ", replied the lad. The boss liked the cut of him and said, "You can start tomorrow and I'll come and see you."


The day was long and arduous for the young man, but he got through it. And finally 6:00 PM came around. The boss duly fronted up and asked, "How many sales did you make today?" "Sir, Just ONE sale." said the young salesman. "Only one sale?" blurted the boss. "No! No! You see here, most of my staff make 20 or 30 sales a day. "If you want to keep this job, you'd better be doing better than just one sale.
 
By the way "How much was the sale worth?"
= 93300534.00 pounds" said the young Marwadi. "What"," How did you manage that?" asked the flabbergasted boss.

"Well", said the salesman, "This man came in and I sold him a small fish hook, then a medium hook and finally a really large hook. Then I sell him new fishing rod and some fishing gear. Then I asked him where he was going fishing and he said down the coast. So I told him he'd be needing a boat, so I took him down to the boat department and sold him that twenty-foot schooner with the twin engines. Then he said his Volkswagen probably wouldn't be able to pull it, so I took him to our automotive department and sold him that new Deluxe 4X4 Blazer.

I then asked him where he'll be staying, and since he had no accommodation, I took him to camping department and sold him one of those new igloo 6-sleeper camper tents. Then the guy said, while we're at it, I should throw in about $100 worth of groceries and two cases of beer.

The boss took two steps back and asked in astonishment, "You sold all that to a guy who came in for a fish hook!!"

"No" answered the salesman, "he came in to buy a headache relief tablet and I said to him, "Sir, fishing is best headache removal"

Boss - "You sit in my chair”.......
 

HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS Without Fighting

STEPS:
1. STOP. Don't let the conflict get worse. The less angry you are the easier it will be to solve the problem.
2. SAY what the conflict is about. What is causing the disagreement? What does each of you want or not want?
3. THINK of positive options. How could you meet each other's needs and be fair?
4. CHOOSE a positive option each of you can agree on.
If you still can't agree, ask someone else (an outsider) to help resolve the conflict.

RULES:
Agree to resolve the conflict.
No name calling.
Take turns talking. Don't interrupt.
Be clear and truthful about what is bothering you and what you really need.
Listen to the other person. Be sure you understand how he or she sees the problem.
Use your brains, not your hands.
Be willing to compromise (if that's appropriate).

Author: Shivashankar Krishnaiyer Pisupaati 

The Boss-Employee story

The Boss-Employee story has two sides.

While one side tells about the bitter experiences of the employees with their bosses, and the other side says that the employees are not the only ones having a beef about their bosses.

Bosses too get sick of their employees at times.

Listing the Top 10 peeves below:

Arrive late and leave early:

If you one of those who arrive late at the last second, but leave early or first at the end of the day, you're not certainly in your boss's good book. It'll only show your disinterest in your job which your boss doesn't like.

Abuse of sick leave:

You are sick and taking leave, that's fine. You are not sick, but you are taking leave telling that you are sick - a really annoying thing that your boss simply hates. As per recent studies, one out of three employees who calls in sick really isn't. About 32 percent of U.S. employees called in sick when they really weren't in 2009, as per CareerBuilder's annual absenteeism survey of 4,700 workers.

Intolerable cell phone behavior:

You are in a meeting and your cell phone rings again and again. It can be the major contributor to your boss's dislike towards you. Adding to it, receiving multiple phone calls at work is never appropriate. Bosses also hate employees peeping on their cell phones while at work.

Not communicating things properly:

Proper communication between the bosses and employees is the key to success for every organization. Employees should have good communicating skills otherwise chances are there for the boss to get irritated. If you are not able to complete your task within the deadline, rather than ignoring your bosses reminder mails communicate the reason why you are not able to meet the deadline.

Lousy table manners:

Bosses obviously develop a dislike to those employees who display poor table manners during a luncheon meeting with a client. Always be very careful while you are in a meeting as a lousy table can cause embarrassment in front of your clients.

Over eagerness:

Bosses don't like those employees who are overeager. Very often people think that by showing over eagerness they can attract their boss's attention and can impress them with their new ideas. But on the contrary it is likely to generate disliking in their boss's mind towards them.

Unreliable:

Employees who say one thing, but end up doing the other and those who cannot complete the assigned task and give excuses are certainly not in their boss's good book. Very often they create headaches for bosses.

Argumentative to the boss:

If you think you should argue for your right with your boss, think twice. This could be a good incentive for disliking you. Even arguing with your co-workers can also create trouble for you. Being argumentative is a big no-no.

Clumsy appearance:

Always maintain a good hygiene while coming to office. Dress up yourself properly. Bosses don't like those employees who don't maintain proper hygiene.

Talk about personal problems:

Bosses tend to hate employees talking endlessly about their personal problems to them or even to the co-workers. Stop doing that or it will create disliking in your boss's mind towards you.

Author:  Shivashankar Krishnaiyer Pisupaati

Let’s begin the day with few good thoughts…

Let’s begin the day with few good thoughts…

1. Stay Positive. You can listen to the cynics and doubters and believe that success is impossible or you can know that with faith and an optimistic attitude all things are possible.

2. Take a morning walk of gratitude. It will create a fertile mind ready for success.

3. Instead of being disappointed about where you are, think optimistically about where you are going.

4. Remember that adversity is not a dead-end but a detour to a better outcome.

5. Focus on learning, loving, growing and serving.

6. Believe that everything happens for a reason and expect good things to come out of challenging experiences.

7. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

8. Mentor someone and be mentored by someone.

9. Live with the 3 E's. Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy.

10. Remember there’s no substitute for hard work.

11. Zoom Focus. Each day when you wake up in the morning ask: “What are the three most important things I need to do today that will help me create the success I desire?” Then tune out all the distractions and focus on these actions.

12. Implement the No Complaining Rule. Complaining is like vomiting. Afterwards you feel better but everyone around you feels sick.

13. Read more books than you did in 2010.

14. Get more sleep. You can’t replace sleep with a double latte.

15. Focus on “Get to” vs “Have to.” Each day focus on what you get to do, not what you have to do. Life is a gift not an obligation.

16. Smile and laugh more. They are natural anti-depressants.

17. Enjoy the ride. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy it.

18. Do not be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.

19. Do not dismiss your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope; to be without hope is to be without purpose.

20. Do not run through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

Have a wonderful day.

Author: Shivashankar Krishnaiyer Pisupaati